Maybe you’ve noticed that Google removed the popular “accountability” apps Covenant Eyes and Accountable2You from its Play store last week.
Guest Post by Elijah Irving I remember, vaguely, the first time I saw this movie. I may have been twelve or fourteen years old at the time. The only memory I had was of the last scene where Michael cuddles next to Jasmine around a fire pit with pornography films engulfed in flames. Obviously, at […]
I read Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts for several reasons: The first is that we sometimes have individuals referred to us for potential sexual addiction who have intrusive sexual thoughts. Frequently these individuals are not dealing with a problematic sexual behavior, but intrusive sexual thoughts and we refer them out to a great area clinician who specializes […]
When I started in this field, sex addiction was not a common term. Therapists who treated sex addiction were not that prevalent and you never heard about sex addiction on the news.
I have been an addiction therapist for approximately thirteen years. While for some professions that may not seem like a long time, for a substance abuse professional, thirteen years in the trenches is a very long time. It is thirteen years of being underpaid, overworked, and underfunded. It is also thirteen years of working with […]
I specialize in working with sexual addiction and problematic sexual behavior. Most of my clients are men. Working with male addicts for over a dozen years has taught me, in person, that many more boys are sexually abused than the numbers tell us. These boys do not tell anyone and do not seek help. These […]
I am going to start this post by adamantly stating that I am not a couples counselor. It’s not my thing and I just can’t do it. I have a great respect for those therapists who train in this area and devote their careers to helping couples find their way. Since I do not do […]
Anyone who has heard me lecture or has been a client of my practice knows how concerned I am about how our culture shames sex and sexuality. The sex addicts I work with have such an enormous sense of shame about their addiction. Their partners have their own sense of shame about being in a […]
Last night one of my long term recovery groups began the first week of Brene Brown’s Connections Curriculum; a 23-minute video of Brene discussing Shame, Empathy, and Vulnerability. We have used her Shame Resilience workin our program for years. Yet, I never cease to be amazed at the reactions to the initial video.