Why did Google Remove Covenant Eyes?
Maybe you’ve noticed that Google removed the popular “accountability” apps Covenant Eyes and Accountable2You from its Play store last week.
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Love, Sex & Eating the Bones (2003) Review
I remember, vaguely, the first time I saw Love, Sex & Eating the Bones. I may have been twelve or fourteen years old at the time.
Book Review: Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts
I read Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts because we sometimes have individuals referred to us who have intrusive sexual thoughts.
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency – Book Review
This book, and the philosophy of Prodependence, are an alternative to codependency that has been rampant in the addiction recovery movement for decades.
Pornography Problem: Erotic Conflict or Addiction?
How do we, as therapists, determine whether a pornography problem is erotic conflict or an addiction? A discussion on the nuances.
Something’s Missing in the Current Drug Prevention Rhetoric
I have been an addiction therapist for approximately thirteen years. While for some professions that may not seem like a long time, for a substance abuse professional, thirteen years in the trenches is a very long time. It is thirteen years of being underpaid, overworked, and underfunded. It is also thirteen years of working with […]
We Are Failing Male Sexual Abuse Survivors
I specialize in working with sexual addiction and problematic sexual behavior. Most of my clients are men. Working with male addicts for over a dozen years has taught me, in person, that many more boys are sexually abused than the numbers tell us. These boys do not tell anyone and do not seek help. These […]
Why is a Good Couples Counselor So Hard to Find?
I am going to start this post by adamantly stating that I am not a couples counselor. It’s not my thing and I just can’t do it. I have a great respect for those therapists who train in this area and devote their careers to helping couples find their way. Since I do not do […]
Caught your kid looking at porn? How we shame children
Anyone who has heard me lecture or has been a client of my practice knows how concerned I am about how our culture shames sex and sexuality. The sex addicts I work with have such an enormous sense of shame about their addiction. Their partners have their own sense of shame about being in a […]
Sex Addiction and Shame
Last night one of my long term recovery groups began the first week of Brene Brown’s Connections Curriculum; a 23-minute video of Brene discussing Shame, Empathy, and Vulnerability. We have used her Shame Resilience workin our program for years. Yet, I never cease to be amazed at the reactions to the initial video.
