I have been working on a chapter in my new book, The New Age of Sex Education: How to talk to your teen about cybersex and pornography, that addresses the legal ramifications of sexting by minors. While pouring through juvenile sexting law, state by state, I have also been checking out another type of law […]
I was working with a client this week on identifying the reasons he struggles with intimacy with his wife. As we were working through the problem, he identified a number of reasons. We both had a realization at the same time. We have done work on all of the reasons on the list but one, […]
“Love is the capacity to take care, to protect, to nourish. If you are not capable of generating that kind of energy toward yourself, it is very difficult to take care of another person. In Buddhist teaching, it is clear that to love oneself is the foundation of the love of other people.” Thich Nhat […]
Generally speaking, Mindfulness is the intentional acceptance and non-judgmental focus of one’s attention on the emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment. Mindfulness interventions have been on the rise in the addiction treatment community and with good reason. It seems like each month there are more scientific studies published that support the practice […]
Gary Wilson, the curator of the widely visited site, www.yourbrainonporn.com, recently released a book of the same name. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction. The book is available on Kindle or as a .pdf file. The value of Your Brain on Porn I have used videos from the yourbrainonporn.com […]
Recently, a client shared that he had listened to an NPR podcast whose topic was the Marshmallow Test and the research of Walter Mischel, Ph.D. He had also watched a short youtube video that showed a modern version of children trying to resist the marshmallow. The video is cute and funny and provided him a visual […]
My last blog post shared the Buddhist lojong slogan, “Don’t bring things to a painful point”. Today I want to share another slogan written about in a Shambhala Sun article that I feel also really applies to recovery. As a reminder, this article focused on using these slogans in our work life. However, we can […]
After a full day of client sessions, I decided to eat dinner before my ride home. I had just picked up the January edition of Shambhala Sun (http://www.lionsroar.com/) and read an article that fit right in with what many of my clients were talking about today. In this article, Lodro Rinzler (http://lodrorinzler.com/) discusses five slogans […]
“And God said, Love your enemy, & I obeyed him, & loved myself” Khalil Gibran A client shared this quote by Khalil Gibran in session this week. It has become the sentiment or ideal that has permeated many of the sessions this week, both group and individual. My clients struggle with many things in their […]
Updates from IITAP Working with Betrayal in Couples Every year a portion of the 1800 Certified Sex Addiction Therapists gather outside Phoenix, Arizona for the annual conference. This February was the 9th annual conference. Though I have been a CSAT since 2009, this was my first trip to the conference. As such, I thought I […]
