As my therapy practice continues to be comprised of more and more child pornography offenders, I continue to seek ways to prevent others from becoming exposed to or involved with child pornography. From Unexpected Places Yesterday, I had the pleasure of meeting a young man who introduced me to yet another way in which people […]
Anyone who has heard me lecture or has been a client of my practice knows how concerned I am about how our culture shames sex and sexuality. The sex addicts I work with have such an enormous sense of shame about their addiction. Their partners have their own sense of shame about being in a […]
I have long been a proponent of experiential therapies that get clients outside of the sterile office environment. I have trained and practiced as an Equine Assisted Psychotherapy practitioner. Something amazing happens when you get clients out of an office and in contact with something bigger than themselves. I have also personally engaged in what […]
I am more accustomed to writing about “hook up apps” like Tindr or Grindr, which are apps that have become synonymous with sex without any strings or attachment. Twice this week, however, I have read or heard about a different type of “hook up.” Cuddling. Early in the year, the Wall Street Journal ran an […]
Up until not that long ago, the only people who knew about websites such as Ashley Madison or Adult Friend Finder, were either people who were using the sites, their partners (if they were caught) or those of us working in the sex addiction field. That all changed this week with the airing of several […]
Sex addiction now seems to be tossed around rather lightly. Behaviors, such as BDSM fetishes are often labeled incorrectly.
Updates from IITAP Working with Betrayal in Couples Every year a portion of the 1800 Certified Sex Addiction Therapists gather outside Phoenix, Arizona for the annual conference. This February was the 9th annual conference. Though I have been a CSAT since 2009, this was my first trip to the conference. As such, I thought I […]
Last week there were two high profile cases in the area newspapers involving sexual abuse. One was about a male psychiatrist who is accused of sexually assaulting several female clients, some of which were underage. The second was about a female high school teacher who was accused of having an inappropriate sexual relationship with a […]
Last night one of my long term recovery groups began the first week of Brene Brown’s Connections Curriculum; a 23-minute video of Brene discussing Shame, Empathy, and Vulnerability. We have used her Shame Resilience workin our program for years. Yet, I never cease to be amazed at the reactions to the initial video.